(Lima, June 2011)
During the last months there have been sad, happy, calm, painful, hilarious, encouraging situations. Everyone is born, grows up, and continues his life within different circumstances that influence their physical space and their minds: to be born in a developing country, in a developed country, to be blonde, to have dark skin, to be born in the bosom of a lovely family, in the bosom of a dysfunctional family, in a country under constant attacks, in a country that attacks constantly, in a machista society, in a family with two dads, surrounded by neighbors who spend all their time watching what you do, in a community that doesn’t know of your existence, to be born with a solid health, to be born with a weak one. Many circumstances are not under our control, but what is under our control is the attitude that we have towards them. For some people the circumstances are very difficult, for others are more bearable, but they are, the fact is that they ARE. What we have to keep in mind is that we can’t compare ourselves with others; to evolve we can only compare ourselves with ourselves, because each one of us has developed according to non-controllable circumstances that shaped our lives, circumstances that we can influence but not change. A turtle won’t walk faster than a hare, but it can improve its time compared to the day before…a hare can’t use its fur as protection from the rain like a shell, but can lie on its side or back and get up with no problem.
Unless we are already dead, let’s breathe, let’s remember that we can breathe, that we are alive, that we can smile, despite our surroundings falling into pieces, despite the souls around us that hit and get irritated, who see themselves as victims blaming the hare for being faster than they are. Two facts are irrevocable: we can’t find peace by avoiding reality, and the most important one, we have to learn to find peace IN SPITE OF… When facing difficult circumstances or people, how much did I strengthen my attitude to protect myself and to deal with them, or step away if I can; how much did I learn to protect myself without losing faith in goodness, without losing control over myself, how much progress did I make in my projects in spite of? As kids we are vulnerable, as teenagers we are irreverent and daring, as adults we learn to discern and to consolidate our identities…to this point in our lives how much did we evolve in spite of…? If you are not religious, perhaps you won’t be able to explain the negative circumstances in life as tests, but I bet you won’t gain anything either by being angry thinking how unfair they are. It is just what it is, and today you can only compare yourself with yourself. If you compare a negative circumstance today with a similar one a year ago: Have I learned to channel better the anger or the pain? Am I able to feel good with myself for how I handle things? Is there anything else I can do about it?
When facing any situation, let’s remember that we are human beings and that we are imperfect, that even if I generate a negative circumstance or if I am involved in one, our hearts must be protected, be loved. Our responsibility is to do our best to rectify our mistakes or to influence the circumstances we live in, but never fall into victimization.
Good vibe to all the warrior souls, who despite the negative circumstances and falls, keep smiling, continue evolving and protect their inner fire…sooner or later they achieve their goals, in spite of…